Sunday, August 9, 2009

Did I unknowingly join?

I've mentioned this before, but over the past few days I have been thinking about how SL sistah's treat a newbie. When we find out that they have just got their install done the first thing we say is "Congratulations, welcome to the SL family/community" or something along those lines. So what I'm questioning is why do we say family? We are already family as black sisters and brothers, so why do we say welcome?

Although I love my SL's I do feel at certain times its like a sorority of some sort, go get your consultations which is like the pledging process. Then go get the install and that's like the crossing over and you've earned your letters. After that, we have like our own special language, and abbreviations and I'm sure for some it leaves them feeling like an outsider. Although my analogy is in good fun, do you understand what I mean. What's your take on it?


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8 comments:

new2locs said...

I understand exactly what you're saying. I don't have sl's I have microloc's which were done using pretty much the same pattern just a different tool. I feel like because I don't have sl's I'm not really privy to alot of things that have to do with sl's. Mine are just as nice as the next person's so why can't I be a part too? Many people ask me if I have sl's & I tell them no but they can't tell the difference. My loctician is certified so it's not like I have a head of imposter's. LOL

Gigglz said...

@new2locs - at the end of the day we have all decided to go natural and embrace what grows, should it matter what method we have chosen to lock. And no, you could never be an imposter of your true self!! LOL!

Unknown said...

@ new to locs: I don't understand what you would not be privy to. I've been to gatherings where there were Sls, braidlocks, permies and traditionals. Everyone was welcome. Your retightening pattern is basically the same, the care you must take with your hair is basically the same... so what makes you feel like an outsider? The Sls 'politics?' Trust, you don't want to get involved in that, lol!

Look, if you're ever in MD and there's a meetup, drop me a line! You're a blogging natural sista, so of course we'd LOVE to have you!

Natasha Dyer said...

Hey Gigglz, it is unfortunate that some with SLs make others feel left out of a special "group". I think when any one decides to embrace their natural hair, she automatically joins the "family". And whatever way she chooses to wear her hair should be celebrated, encouraged and welcome. That's the freedom of having natural hair.

Gigglz said...

@Queen Nat - your right there are some SL wearers that come off as if it is a special group. And I think that we have too much seperation as it is already in the black community, light skin vs. dark skin, down south roots vs. island roots, good hair vs. bad hair all the nonsense that we continue to perpetuate. I just love to see any woman with natural hair and even if we don't speak she gets a smile from me.

Shai said...

GURLLLL:
u hit the nail right on the head!!!
Did u know they have a sisterlodge?

That's what the home office is, these days.

It is quite something. reading all in regards to sisterlocks, it makes a girl wonder, is this what I signed up for? Do i want to be a part of this 'lifestyle'??

my heart grieves, truly

Anonymous said...

It is true, some wearers of sisterlocks behave as if they are 'superior' somewhat.

And that is what JC wants. She has 'originated' the creme de la creme of locks.

I wonder, will there ever be true equality in the world? There is always something there that separates us.

I want a truly united world, where we can live, black, white, light, dark, tall short, nappy or straight, sane and stupid..... Man too many labels.

crazee shai <3

Gigglz said...

@Shai - I must say the sisterLODGE sounds awfully clique like, but I still support my decision. I did it because I like them and for that reason alone. Not to be part of the "in" crowd or to be part of the lodge! I didn't like the whole sorority idea in college far less for now as I'm a grown woman.

@Anonymous - JC probably does want that which is why consultants have to be certified and such. At the end of the day she created a company to make a profit and thats what she is doing. Can't really knock her hustle!

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